Okay, this little guy is DARLING, but this argument would last about three seconds in my house. LOL He's a future lawyer!
Okay, this little guy is DARLING, but this argument would last about three seconds in my house. LOL He's a future lawyer!
I started out a Juan Pablo fan. I thought he'd make a great bachelor, but I now think that Juan Pablo is at the very least, a narcissist, and at the worst, a psychopath. He is void of emotion. UNLESS, you say something he doesn't want to hear. OR, require something more of him than his standard, circle of sentences.
Then, he's going to retaliate. And it isn't pretty. If he's that vicious on television, what is he like in real life?
And what is up with his family TRYING to warn the girls, like they're going to the gallows, not falling in love. "Are you up for this?"
If a guy's mother and father are warning you at that stage, there's some serious garbage going on. I will say he appears to be a decent father. But I know that narcissists are usually great fathers when their children are young and reflect them -- and all their hopes. It's when kids get to be old enough to shoot their mouths off that narcissists struggle with parenting.
Because with someone like that, you're not actually entitled to your own opinion. Get one at your peril. I honestly felt for Nikki, sitting there like some dolt while he wouldn't say after all these months that he loved her, and kept saying, 'ees private.'
Oh, like how private he was with Clare's reputation? That kind of private? Granted, Clare made her own bed, but come on, she went on there with honest intentions that this guy really did want a relationship.
In all honesty, I thought Nikki looked like she was in a cult.
My two worst moments were after listening to Clare tell her side of the story on St. Lucia, he just blew her off and then said, "Whew! Glad I didn't pick her."
And when Chris Harrison tried to get some actual FEELINGS for someone else out of Juan Pablo. That was tough to see. For anyone out there saying, "Juan Pablo is smart not to make such a big choice so quickly."
That is not what he's doing. He is incapable of making a choice because it's all about him. And someone else is always going to have requirements in a relationship. Unless, he doesn't get to that point. Which seems to be his modes operandi. But I want to counsel him that he might want to hurry up. He's not getting any younger, and those looks will fade and he just won't get away with the charm like he once did.
But as for Nikki, I hope she RUNS!!! Before she ends up looking as lifeless as Katie Holmes did after marriage.
Clare is up first with Juan Pablo's family in St. Lucia. Claire is beyond awkward with Camilla. How does someone with 13 nieces and nephews not how to connect naturally with kids? That's strange. She's so blissfully in her own world, she doesn't seem to notice.
His mother asks if Clare feels loved. The way she asks is like a warning - like she hasn't actually heard those words from another woman. "He's hyperactive," Mom tells Clare.
"He sometimes is very rude," Mom says.
"He wasn't trying to hurt me," Clare say.
His brother asks her, "When it gets rough and Juan Pablo walks away, are you willing to hang on?"
Uh RED FLAG!!!! When the family is asking WHEN HE LEAVES and WHEN HE'S RUDE. Clare is either in complete denial or dumb as a box of bricks. The family actually seems to be supportive of Clare -- as if she's a member of a 12-step group. (Juan Pablo Anonymous?) They've clearly supported dumped exes in the past.
For those of you who have seen the movie:
JP's father says, "He's not an easy guy...he focalized on what he wants." What's that called? Um, narcissism. It's called narcissism. I feel for the family as they try to warn off these poor doe-eyed girls.
With Nikki, again the whole family warns her that Juan Pablo ees not okay. That he's difficult, rude and can you stick it out? Are you tough enough? Can you say Red Flag!
Both gals seem to ignore the family's warnings. They're the special ones, apparently.
LAST DATE WITH CLARE IN ST. LUCIA
"She's hot. She's sexy. And she kisses...Aye Yai Yai." He whispers something "That no woman wants to hear...and some sexual thing. It was insulting. It was offensive and it just made me feel awful." Clare seems to be waking up from her slumber in this moment. Clare has just learned she's a blow-up doll to Juan Pablo and wants him to say otherwise. Here we go...
Now Clare wants a REAL answer from him, and he goes right into his non-answer mode. Juan Pablo needs someone to beat the crap out of him. Just sayin' He is NOT that stupid. He's "being honest" -- and he wants to let her know if she's going to question him, she is not going to be his pick. He acts like a complete sociopath. He is void of empathy. There is no actual communication here. There is an unstated threat. If she says something he doesn't want to hear, he will shut her down immediately and play her off of Nikki.
When she asks if he knows her, he pulls out the Camilla card and makes it all about him again, and how hard it is for him. He charms his way out of a real answer. I love that both Sharleen and Sean Lowe talk about JP talking in circles and offering no real answers.
LAST DATE WITH NIKKI IN ST. LUCIA
They're on a Catamaran and Juan Pablo is pulling out all the stops, where he pulls Nikki close so she can't actually speak. She says, I feel you might be afraid to open up. He says, "When I feel it, I'll open up."
Uh, translation: When I want you, you'll know it.
Nikki is also questioning -- ie., her sixth sense is working overtime, and she's working even harder to ignore it. #LifeLesson
Bachelor Record: Both gals left crying after final date, and NOT because, "I don't know if I'll be with him or not."
JP's final speech to Clare is coldhearted, cruel and full of a lot of words that say NOTHING. He doesn't give her one compliment, he just says, "I think it's best for me to have to say goodbye to you." And when he goes in for a kiss, Clare pushes him away.
She tells him that she stuck around because she believed in him and she needed reassurance, and he had every opportunity to tell her how he felt. He tries to make it about him AGAIN. And she walks away, and says she would never want her kids having a father like him. The live audience bursts into applause.
Juan Pablo's Reaction? "Whew! I'm glad I didn't pick her."
Nikki also starts out giving the speeches. Do you know why the women are giving the speeches? Because Juan Pablo wants, no NEEDS, to hear how fantastic he is. All. The. Time.
"I'm not 100% sure that I want to propose to you, but at the same time I'm 100% sure that I don't want to let you go. I like you a lot."
Oh swoon. Guess what I won't be using in my next romance novel? He hands her a rose, and shoves his tongue down her throat. The end. Onto "After the Rose" -- Worst. Season. Ever.
Okay, I'm trying again. In all honesty, I've never made it through this movie. And it's actually based on one of my favorite books. (Camille by Alexandre Dumas fils) But I've tried a couple of times, and I just find the music so grating, I can't get through the first scene with her on the swing.
If I forward thru that scene, will I miss anything vital?
I just reread Camille not too long ago, and I thought, I have to try again. For those of you who love it, tell me what I'm missing.
Seriously? We are so PC, we can't say what the suspects looked like? They're non-Asian. That's specific. Let me help you out with some options:
Now, they're saying one of them looks like a Manchester City now AC Milan player -- who incidentally, is black. Was that so hard? Honestly, it's the NEWS. Report it. The men had darker skin. We don't know they just weren't trying to escape their country at this point, so let's report the facts as we know them. Since we know so little.
This plane story bothers me so much. I can't imagine how these poor families are suffering not knowing anything.
In all honestly, I hope for an alien abduction or that they disconnected all electronics and flew the plane to a lost island somewhere. I know it's a long shot. I know it's optimism to the point of delusion, but I still want it to be true.
They don't even know for certain the passports are connected. I assume people from these small countries try to get out using fake passports all the time.
Seriously, how can they be missing an ENTIRE plane?
I was complaining that all the music today is sans ACTUAL romance. It's just all sex and partying, and it's pathetic. People don't know how to connect and they substitute hook-up culture for romance. Then, Nicki sent me this song, and I love it. It makes me happy to see a video that doesn't need to be altered for content.
It's just sweet. Plus, it's like a mini romance novel.
It's nearly SPRING, and that means Spring Cleaning!!! Luckily, as much as I pick on my daughter for her lack of boundaries, she possesses organizational skills that I do not have.
So today, we're cleaning out the cupboards in both the kitchen and the kids' bathroom, and it is sparkly and lovely! We also MAY have visited Ulta recently and may or may not need to make room for new makeup.
Okay, Ulta is just a better shopping experience. You can't get Nars there, but I did get a really good replacement blush by Smashbox, thanks to an awesome salesgirl. Plus, I don't have to order the color that would make anyone blush. What part of your house needs organization?
A Tennessee Pastor has started a "shaming" website for Christians who go out to eat after church, and don't tip well.
I'm not big on shaming as a punishment, but this has long been a pet peeve of mine, so maybe it will work. I actually STOPPED going out with the Sunday crowd after college, because I didn't have enough money to cover their paltry tip. And, I was humiliated that they would pray before their meal and not think a tip was in order.
(Note, there is a scene in "What a Girl Wants" that depicts this exact scenario!)
If you can't afford a tip, you can't afford to go out. This is not Europe. Tipping is a part of a waiters' income. TIP! Or stay home.
The reason it's sad is because people DO expect more of you. You claim to be a Christian, to love God -- what better way than to show love to His people? To offer them respect at a table. Imagine if Jesus washed your feet and you told Him, "I give God 10%, why should I give you 18%?" Um, because that's the standard, loser. You can't create rules for yourself and call them God's rules. Society has its own rules. If you're going to go out into society, do God proud.
This poor waitress said to give her a table of drinkers any day. Listen, I grew up at a table of drinkers, and you know what? They're polite and respectful and tip well. That's called MANNERS in the real world. Okay, rant over. Tip your servers well!
Sidenote question: Do you tip at Starbucks? (Because I don't, and my dad does. Every. Single. Time.) But I feel like $5.25 for my daily coffee includes the tip. Am I a hypocrite here? Maybe I should include that in my incredibly pathetic coffee bill each month.
So my daughter just came home. Wearing my shirt. My shoes -- and drinking my Diet Root Beer. Our conversation went like this,
"Why are you wearing my shirt?"
"I was going to the beach. It's nautical." She twists for me to see.
"Yes, I know my nautical shirt is nautical. But it's my shirt." Then, I notice the Root Beer. "Where did you get my Root Beer?"
"It was in the cabinet. You hid it."
So I hid my OWN Root Beer and forgot where I put it -- thought I was out of it. But my daughter, knowing I HID it, decided to help herself. We have ourselves a BOUNDARY issue.
This kid has more clothes than Kim Kardashian, and I have a few pairs of jeans and some sailor tops with Keds. I think I should be able to keep this few things to myself, and listen, I've tried to go old lady on her. Does that work? No. Because she manages to layer it, so it looks younger.
And I never wear Keds with socks, so you'd think the whole "gross" factor would come in -- maybe I need smellier feet. Hmmm. Any other ideas?
So I'm off to Bunkasai -- the Japanese Festival for my son's Japanese Club. I'm working the "Haunted House" -- Think I'll scare anyone? I know this is really bad, but my son loves all things Japanese, and when he joined the Japanese Club, it's an academic club. You have to have a 3.5 GPA to be in it.
So most parents would be like, "YEAH!" But this is why I'm warped. Do you know my FIRST thought? I'm ashamed of it, and yet it makes me laugh every time.
Oh my gosh, this guy has to be a nightmare for the Bachelor franchise. He's like the Biden of television reality shows. So he makes a joke on Twitter, calling his friend "retarded" and rather than saying, "Oh, I didn't know that was offensive..." Juan Pablo pulls out his ESL card and says, In Venezuela the R word is USED commonly and by NO means is to OFFEND anyone..."
LOL Venezuela is sounding more ignorant by the day. They cannot appreciate Juan Pablo blaming all his idiotic behavior on their country. He gets ticked when called on his Tweet and goes on to say: "Some people need to TRAVEL and get around the WORLD... The US is a GREAT country but there is a LOT out there... #openyourmind #learnculture."
Okay, so right. If I TRAVEL and learn about other cultures, I will learn it's okay to say retarded when referring to the mentally challenged? I'm not sophisticated, apparently. I grew up hearing that word aimed at my brother on a regular basis, and somehow, I doubt it's commonplace in Venezuela.
If I were Juan Pablo, I wouldn't be so quick to use that word. For obvious reasons.
When is this season over? #Painful
I think we're seeing his true colors. That he's narcissistic, and cannot stand to be called on anything. He will never say he's sorry. He always blames it on someone or something else. Ladies, be warned, you've seen this guy in action. His pretty face will be gone someday, and you'll be left with HIM!
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