Admittedly, this is something that is said to me a lot. Of course, all my friends get it. They know I say whatever I'm thinking and don't have much of a filter. I'm not rude, but I'm honest, and I still don't understand why that's an issue.
So yesterday, this mother is telling me she's witnessing to a fellow mother. I have to admit, I have an issue with that anyway. Are you trying to get to know them? Are you being her friend? Or is she someone you just have to get over the line and you get some kind of bonus points if they're saved by YOU and not Jesus?
That statement, in general, annoys me. Like you're too good to just be their friend. You're witnessing. Does that actually work? Or do people just steer clear of you when they see you coming at school?
I digress. What else is new? Tony, this is for you...
So she says that this mom had dog poop in her house, and gave her a sock (with a little of it on the sock) to throw at the dog. I will admit, that's disgusting. I would not be grabbing the sock. I would have just said, "It's got dog mess on it. I'm not touching that." Again, might be rude, but the other option is I touch a dog poop sock, right?
So she said that she was trying to talk to her about how we parent in America. And I said, "So did you tell her? We parent with bleach?"
Oh my gosh, you would have thought I just accused the entire race of being filthy and she says, "I CANNOT believe you just said that?"
"Really? Because I can't believe you grabbed a sock with dog poop on it under the guise of ministering." And yet, MY reaction is the rude one. See, I don't get that.
This is why I don't move from Silicon Valley. Engineers are non-plussed by what I say. They just move on. They wouldn't touch the dog poop either! Witnessing or not! Unless maybe they cleaned it up out of niceness.
Now, I will give you one thing: I could use a better filter. But sometimes, when people react so aghast, I want to ask them, do you EVER state the truth? Or is that ability just shut down within you, under the guise of manners? Because it's kind of bad manners to hand someone a fecal-infused sock.