For those of you who have missed my love of Peter Walsh. I have a crush on Oprah organizer Peter Walsh, and let me say that's true, even if he bats for the other side.
Anyway, this week he was on Oprah, which sends my kids running since Mom will probably want to organize something -- what can I say, my crush fires me up! But they were featuring Hoarders from A&E's new reality show about people who have this attachment to stuff instead of people, and their house ends up looking like a bomb went off in the midst of it. This one couple changed their sheets a lot because they all FIVE ate on the bed at dinner. Okay, that so makes me feel like Jeff Lewis, because that utterly grosses me out.
So this show Hoarders is just like "Intervention", the people have to work on the issues behind the alcoholism or addiction. So in the case of this couple, they had to separate to get healthy because they were each others' "trigger". They basically scrambled each others brains. In my humble opinion, it was the guy who was really messed up because the woman's house looked normal and when the husband spoke about how "normal" he'd become...well, first off, he didn't look all that normal and secondly, the wife's face said it all. Revulsion. I think that's the best way to describe it.
But it got me to thinking about controlling people, and how they SOO mess with people's heads. They will always find a people-pleaser and suck every last drop of blood out of them. Emotional vampires. So naturally, my mind went back to the Gosselins. Those two have a SICK dynamic. SICK SICK SICK. And Jon, you may think you're "free" of her control, but you're still completely under her spell, or you could let it go. You could stop fighting back publicly and both of you would give up looking good for your kids. It doesn't matter who is right. You're addicted to the only connection you have. In the Oprah couple, it was the stuff. In the Gosselins, it's the fighting. They pull toward each other with the fighting and being "right". That is just so wrong.
I contend those two cannot get healthy together at the moment. But I also contend that neither one of them is doing a thing to fix themselves while they point the finger at the other one. If it's over, move on. Get healthy. Get rid of the anger and don't make some new slob pay for it. Okay, if I sound like a bad Dr. Phil, I watched both "Monk" and "Flipping Out" back to back, so I'm ready to fix the world. LOL
Tell me, is he not the human image of Kermit the Frog?? So dang lovable!!