As a mom of four, I hate when the mom takes the blame for every stupid thing their kids do. However, I really think that Arie's parents talked him into Becca. It was clear his emotions and feelings were for Lauren and he was trying to talk himself into Becca. Let's be clear. Both women are too good for him. He can't man up enough to figure out what he wants and have any convictions. Maybe he was overwhelmed and doesn't do well in a crisis. But as his parents, they KNEW he couldn't make a choice and yet they told him theirs. Strongly. Multiple times. And he was in such a confused state, I think he went with someone else making the decision for him. It was easier.
Keep in mind that his ex-girlfriend said he would be a great bachelor until it was time to pick just one. Baby Bekah called it too by saying he's a manipulative person who says what anyone wants to hear to get his own way.
The thing that bothers me most about him is even after he'd broken Becca's heart, he had NO consideration for her feelings at all. He was completely lacking in empathy. Even when talking with her on tonight's show, he seems to want her to feel bad for him. I think our bachelor is so in his own head that he's probably not capable of sacrificing for another person. He's probably been spoiled and told that he's allowed to get whatever he wants. (I'm not a fan of his family, can you tell? I think they created his narcissism or at least enabled it.) . This show certainly didn't help.
When asked if he has regrets by Chris Harrison, Arie says he regrets asking Becca to marry him. TO HER FACE!! Not that she's hurt, not that he was unfair to her, no, he regrets that he made a mistake. This guy is utterly clueless and if Lauren doesn't run I fear for her future. When she is having a baby Arie will tell her that her wailing is really bothering him. Could she please keep it down?
If any of you have read by Ashley Stockingdale, I'm thinking Arie is Seth Greenwood come to life. As far as Becca being the Bachelorette, I hope she's ready. She deserves so much better than what happened to her. She allowed that jerk to talk to his ex and "get some closure." That is going to harm her trust in anyone. There are long-term repercussions to what he did and I don't think he will ever get it.