I got roped into this one by my son's girlfriend, but I quickly got drawn in by how many dysfunctional relationships are excused by the church. Be it Mormon or evangelical. Apparently, there was a big "swinging" scandal that went on within "MomTok" on TikTok and there's a thing called "soft swinging." I'm going to admit to not going down that rabbit hole, and nor do I want to -- but I do find it interesting that a church that requires special underwear for modesty thinks swinging is appropriate. I mean, I'm sure the regular Mormon church doesn't approve, but I guess it's a thing.
Anyway, the cast is made up of women you can't tell apart because they all have the same hair and appearance. They even have a hairstylist on the show who provides all these similar long extension, beachy waves. The only two who look different are Whitney (who is famous for doing a TikTok dance in front of her baby at the hospital while he fought off RSV) and Taylor. Taylor is in a whole mess with an unstable man named Dakota, who is trying to lock her down with marriage. Taylor has been there, done that and is leery of marriage. But she does get pregnant with Dakota's baby. Because that's not commitment, I guess?
Worse yet, is that Taylor's mother is constantly talking her down and letting her know she doesn't have better options and she needs to marry this tool. Dakota finds out she's going to Chippendales (keep in mind, Taylor is 8-months pregnant at this point) and whines all over Vegas that he can't take it. He thinks the Chippendales' men are picking up on his very pregnant girlfriend and will not let her weary self rest until he gets all this off his mind. Dude, regulate your own emotions. It's not her job!! She's brewing a baby, let the woman chill on GIRLS weekend.
Anyway, the worst of the men, in my opinion, is Zac Affleck, who is married to Jennifer. Jennifer is the whole package. She's gorgeous, the mother of two beautiful children and supports the family with her side gigs while Zac goes to school. Zac's only commentary to Jennifer should be, "Thank you for providing for our family while I get through medical school." But that is not Zac's reaction. Zac throws a toddler tantrum when the show takes the women to a Chippendale's show in Vegas. (I mean, ick, but she's probably contractually obligated to go.) He actually tells the woman supporting him that it's going to be hard to be a divorced mom of two. So gross.
Then, scarier yet, she takes off crying to make him feel better and comes back with excuses for him. Her reaction is so Stepford wife, it's terrifying. Um, no ma'am. The fact that parents on both sides of these relationships support this patriarchal society when the man isn't providing makes me break into hives. You, sir, if you want to be the boss -- get a JOB! But he pulls his wife out of the Utah lifestyle and away from her support system and work so he can go to school in NYC or Arizona -- depending on what you believe. Red flag! Her job, though it's supported him, is not important to him. Therefore, it shouldn't be important to her and she should just drop it so he can do whatever he wants.
This whole "trad wife" trend on TikTok really gets to me, as someone who was a trad wife for 28 years. It's fine if you have the same goals, but if your trad husband decides to change the rules, you've been out of the workforce for a very long time, and the church/courts aren't going to side with you -- because the world sees a trad wife as someone who is lazy, and didn't work for all the family has. People resent traditional roles in our society right now. So this show triggers me because these gals are making their own bank, they're raising their own families, and the husbands are berating them on the daily. That should not be what marriage looks like.
If something is important to you, it should be important to your spouse. If it's not, or if he wants you to give up your dreams for his, that is not a sustainable lifestyle. Sorry, it's just not.