So yes, I'm a big Brene Brown fan and I do think this current book is so bold. The title comes from this fantastic Theodore Roosevelt quote:
"It is not the critic who counts: not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes up short again and again, because there is no effort without error or shortcoming, but who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, who spends himself for a worthy cause; who, at the best, knows, in the end, the triumph of high achievement, and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who knew neither victory nor defeat."
"Citizenship in a Republic,"
Speech at the Sorbonne, Paris, April 23, 1910
Theodore -- who rode a stinkin' moose. He knows about trying and failing, but he dared greatly.
Brene says that quote changed her life because she no longer gave any credence to the critics. Especially the anonymous ones. If you're going to say it, OWN IT! It's very easy to say YOU could do it better -- without actually taking ownership. Brene says that taught her to show up and be seen. "If you're not in the arena getting your butt kicked on occasion, I'm not interested in your feedback." Isn't that fantastic? Show up. Be brave. Be vulnerable -- it's the only way to find true connection according to her research.