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#SouthernCharm & Life's Lack of It...

I got to watch "Southern Charm" in real time last night. Great start to the season. Loved the opening with T-Rav's court details of his salacious accusations. Listen, I saw the abuse and grooming of Kathryn in the first season, but I still held out hope that love to win out. Yeah, that was the naive romance writer in me. I forgot how vile Ashley's behavior was. She was verbally abusive to Kathryn and did T-Rav's dirty work. It was hard to stomach watching it back. I see how Kathryn survived by going numb. She had to. She probably still has to so she can continue to co-parent with her ex. It can't be easy to do as a recovering addict. I'm glad she's got Patricia on her side now to even things out a bit.

I was going to write this in the morning, but we had a bathtub leak -- which is an urgent thing in our household, so I've been out of the house all day. The one day I had to write this week. Someone does not want me to sit at my computer for sure!


I don't know what was more upsetting, Austin involved in a threesome or his dad bod in his skivvies. That cannot be unseen. Ick. Just wanted a shower after the whole fiasco and if that girl is dumb enough to date him after witnessing that, she's a lost soul. I don't have much hope for her -- Madison was it?

Something about me just doesn't like Shep anymore and I feel bad about this. But he really has few redeeming qualities. It's not cute at his age to be that frat boy who hangs out in bars and picks up different women. Ladies, raise your standards!

Whitney and Kathryn. Seems scripted. I'm not buying it. Also, she has a boyfriend. I hope she ends up happily ever after after the hell she's been through. What a nightmare to go up against a good ol' boy with money in Charleston courts.

Craig and Naomie. Okay everyone is saying Craig isn't over Naomie, and I believe that. But I don't think Naomie is over Craig either. And her boyfriend pushing her at the gym really didn't sit well with me. She says she's so happy, but I don't buy it. I think she was happy making Craig miserable to be honest.

The presence of Eliza was scripted and pathetic. Give poor Kathryn a break. How that Thomas character gets so many flying monkeys to do his dirty work, I will never understand. It looks like it's going to be a great season though and I'm looking forward to it.

I finally watched "The Bachelorette" this morning with Elle. We've both been working opposite hours so we couldn't sit down. I think the producers hate Hannah B. It's the only explanation for that flatline group of guys. I don't understand how Matt Donald is a farmer if he lives in Los Gatos? It looked like a cold farm where he was. Anyway, I was sad to see him go so early. The only other guys I remember are Jed and Tyler. The rest of them all ran together.

I still think it's going to be a good season though because Hannah B is a train wreck in the best way possible. Love her! When Jed took out his guitar, he was my front runner.

No One is Without Sin: #JamesCharles Drama

I'll admit, I only know who James Charles is because of my daughter. Tati, I've never heard of until this drama unfolded. Listen, I don't care what this fight is over, but I full-on do NOT support destroying someone because you're in some kind of fight with them. People make mistakes. No one deserves to have their livelihood destroyed over something so petty.

It's not like he is Harvey Weinstein. James Charles apparently promoted a vitamin brand that wasn't Tati's -- his online friend. In reply, she posts a 43-minute video taking him down for everything from disloyalty to sexual misconduct.

Anyone who unfollowed James Charles because of what someone ELSE had to say is part of the problem. That is straight-up bullying. What do YOU think of James Charles? Why would you let some random person in her person Waterloo speak to you about who to follow?


This is straight-up bullying and I'm tired of it. No one deserves to be "erased" because they made a mistake. I mean, do you want to be destroyed over one regretful moment? We all have them. I heard on the radio that this woman said James Charles tries to pick up on straight men and makes them question their sexuality.

Really? I mean, if a lesbian were to pick up on me, do I question my sexuality? No, I say, that's cool and move on...back to Mr. Darcy.

Anyway, because of the way he's been treated, I went and followed James Charles. I think it's despicable to take a private battle and try to destroy someone. It just feels evil. I don't know anything about this woman, but I think what she did is abhorrent.

Also, James Charles is 19 years old. He's a baby. This is when you're supposed to make your mistakes. Tati is a 37-year old woman. What kind of woman destroys a 19-year-old kid and thinks it's okay?

#Bachelorette starts tonight!

At first, I was not excited about Hannah B as the Bachelorette, but I have since changed my mind. I think she has an amazing sense of humor and I think she's a lover of truth so she will hold these men's feet to the fire. We need a spitfire Bachelorette!

I don't know about your house, but the Bachelor series has always brought my family together. We love to spill the tea on the contestants and enjoy the different personalities. But admittedly, my daughter and I have a game where if someone walks in front of us in the car, we create their backstories. You know, some guy will pull up next to us in a Tesla and flirt with my daughter and she'll turn to me and say, "He went to Cal. He cheats on his wife, but she knows and doesn't care. He buys her jewelry and she's just glad he doesn't come home often."

Okay, I know, it's a terrible game and it's usually not that mean, but I want my daughter to write and I'm encouraging her to create characters. She is so talented and just won't do it! She finds books are the enemy.


Back to the "Bachelorette." I love the charming outfit combining the pantsuit for Hannah's feminist side along with the Cinderella imagery for us romantics. Hannah has a crazy sense of humor and very little sense of editing herself, so I think she's going to be great bachelorette.

Before you get all judgey about us watching -- and I know you're out there -- once upon a time we had "All My Children" and Nina and Cliff. Or "General Hospital" with Luke and Laura. Now we have reality television and it's so much more fun! It's like we are all Mrs. Kravitz. (Nosey neighbor on "Bewitched" for you youngins.)

And let us not forget, my favorite show, "Southern Charm" starts up this week SANS T-Rav and that makes me so happy. With the #MeToo movement, he never should have been on television.


Craig has a new girlfriend. Kathryn has 50/50 custody with her creepy baby daddy (and for those of you who don't know, he's been accused of rape twice and has yet to stand trial. And he did years in prison for cocaine crimes as state treasurer of South Carolina, so feel sorry for this poor young woman who fell victim to his "charms."

Vegas, Baby!

So I'm thinking of moving to Henderson, NV. Here are my reasons. It's affordable. It's near a major airport and I can see concerts. Because I love concerts. So I'm planning a trip there with my future daughter-in-law and she asked if I wanted to see a show. I said, "YES!" And then, she asked what I wanted to see.

Okay, I'm too nervous to watch Cirque du Soleil. So I can't do that because I won't enjoy it. I want to see Barry. Yes, I've seen him a million times, but he's BARRY! I don't know if I can do that to my DIL. She just learned who Adam Ant is, is it really fair to expose her to Barry so early on in the relationship?


The thing is, she's such a sweetheart, she would go. Yesterday, I was on my way to see her (she gave me a fantastic facial for Mother's Day!) and I heard this woman on the 80's radio. She was calling from Henderson, NV and was going to see the Violent Femmes that night. I mean, that's my future! It was a sign.

Actually, it looks like Fremont Street has a lot of concerts that are right up my alley, so I will have a fun life there I think. Plus, I will be one hour by plane from any of my kids and they can descend on me when they need to. Doesn't that sound awesome? Not awesome is the heat, but since I rarely go outside, I think we're cool there too. Everything is air-conditioned.

Getting excited to check it out and see if it's for me. I've never been to Vegas outside of the airport, so it should be interesting.

Working out with MS: Pilates

Okay, I'm not a fan of exercise to begin with -- so let's start there. I like to hike, I used to like to run (when I could) but my dropfoot has taken hold and I can't run any longer. So I've had to seek alternative workouts.

Let's look at my neurotic excuses, shall we?

*I hate gyms because I'm an introvert and it's too much noise and people. (Ick.)
Not to mention I'm a bit of a germaphobe -- so there's that. End of gym.

*Yoga died a sad death for me because my balance is so bad (vertigo) and that would be fine in a roomy studio, but in Silicon Valley, that doesn't happen, so I feel crunched and like I'm going to fall into someone. End of yoga.


Enter Pilates: I thought Pilates was something I could do because you get your own little station, so if you fall, you fall into machinery, not some innocent bystander. I found a free class on Instagram and I took it. I made it through the whole class and it was zen and kicked my butt. Okay, maybe we have something here, I thought. So I signed up for four classes a month. I may take more as I get stronger, but for now, that is more than enough, I still hurt from class. So it's keeping my muscles strong without getting heated (another important factor in MS workouts because if you get hot, your multiple sclerosis acts up and then you have more symptoms.)

It's really tough on your core, which is exactly what I need and it's scheduled so I have to go or I pay for nothing. And I'm cheap that way. When I pay for something I don't want to do, I can't afford to miss it.

So for now, I think Pilates is really going to work for me. It's not cheap, but if it keeps me strong and upright, that is worth every penny. Plus, I'm vain, so I need to stay in shape because I don't want to wear ugly clothes.

I'm writing today. This post is my warm-up. I already did some editing and now I write...